In my reading, I was drawn to books that spoke on the subject; books like, “Authentic Relationships” (Wayne & Clay Jacobsen), “Loving Our Kids On Purpose” (Danny Silk) & “Becoming A True Spiritual Community” (Larry Crabb).

Last Sunday in Exeter I got to share some of what God’s been saying to me about it.  Rather than posting the usual style “Sunday Set List”, I thought I’d put up a recording of what I said…

God With Us – Mike Ellis

From what I’ve heard so far, the small groups that are meeting in Stevenage are going really well.  Here’s a quote from one of the hosts:

We had dinner with God.  What a glorious night… God manifested His presence in a powerful way.

I like it!

Exeter (pm)

We certainly met with God in Exeter this week also (of course we did – otherwise, why else keep doing it…?).

The evening began with Mark leading us in prayer while I played the chords to the first song.  It sounds so formal when I write it down, but the reality was we were all praying, “Your kingdom come…”.

All the songs were in the key of G this week, so we flowed easily from one to the other.  It also meant that it was easier for worship to continue “between” the songs.

The songs we sang were:

• Hallelujah/Your Love Is Amazing (Brian Doerksen/Brenton Brown)
• Forever (Chris Tomlin)
• For Who You Are (Marty Sampson)
• More Than Life (Reuben Morgan)
• Oh How He Loves You An Me (Kurt Kaiser)
• Take All Of Me (Marty Sampson)

At the end of the first song, we were applauding God & speaking / singing our own thanks for His love.  The next two songs worked like a medley; both being played with the same rhythm & tempo.

“More Than Life” was powerful.  Mark had just talked about all of God’s promises being yes & amen; he wasn’t aware that the next song began “…stand by the promises…”.  We repeated the chorus for a short while; as that came to an end, one of the ladies prayed thanking God for His love & puting her confidence in that (not knowing that Mark was preaching on confidence).

At that point, I replaced the song we were due to sing with one that wasn’t originally in the set list.  In my worship time on the Saturday evening, the old hymn, “Oh How He Loves You And Me” flashed into my mind.  It seemed to fit with what was being prayed, so I started it up, the band picked it up & everyone joined in.

The last song was an appropriate, passionate response to His love, “… love that’s stronger, love that covers (we sing conquered) sin and takes the weight of the world” as with our whole hearts we sang:

I love You

All of my hope is in You

Jesus Christ, take my life

Take all of me

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It was family service and we changed things about a bit in Stevenage this week.  We started with the following songs:

• Good Morning (Phil & Heather Joel) Mike
• Lord You Are Good (Israel Houghton) Teash
• Be Lifted Up (Paul Oakley) Ali

Good Morning is the first track from Phil Joel’s “Deliberate Kids” CD.  The children abslutely love this song; it’s so much fun.  Even some of the adults wern’t able to resist the urge to tap their toes, clap their hands, or even shake their hips in a general, “lets twist again”-type fashion!

After the first song, Rachel stood up & said that God wanted to remind us that His banner over us was love (Song of Solomon 2:4), which turned out to be a really fitting encouragement.

The theme this week was about growing through the storm.  Five people stood up in turn and each spoke; either about storms which they’ve experienced personally and through which they’ve known God’s sustaining presence and grown as a result; or about what they believe God to be saying to us concerning what we do during storms (either try to protect ourselves from them, or turn to Him).

During one particularly poignant testimony, one of the ladies quoted the following scripture, which aptly summarised what God was saying through the service:

¹⁷ Though the fig tree may not blossom,
Nor fruit be on the vines;
Though the labor of the olive may fail,
And the fields yield no food;
Though the flock may be cut off from the fold,
And there be no herd in the stalls—
¹⁸ Yet I will rejoice in the LORD,
I will joy in the God of my salvation.
¹⁹ The LORD God is my strength;
He will make my feet like deer’s feet,
And He will make me walk on my high hills.

To the Chief Musician. With my stringed instruments. (Habakkuk 3:17-19, New King James Version)

We closed the service with 2 songs:

• Your Spirit Moves Me (Mike Ellis) Mike
• Blessed Be Your Name (Matt Redman) Ali

The first song is brooding in style; it’s purpose was to facilitate a time of reflection, concerning following the leading of the Holy Spirit.  The second song brought a very appropriate end to our time together – celebrating God, no matter what the circumstance!

Exeter (pm)

We had a great time in Exeter this week.  Right from the outset, there was a buoyancy to the worship, as we offered wholehearted devotion.  We sang the following songs to start:

• Open The Eyes Of My Heart (Paul Baloche)
• Be Lifted Up (Paul Oakley)
• Here I Am To Worship (Tim Hughes)
• I Exalt Thee (Pete Sanchez Jr)
• Lord You Have My Heart (Martin Smith)

We were in the key of E (capo 2 D) throughout.  As normal, the worship doesn’t end when the song does; the music carries on, accompanied by the heartfelt cries & impassioned prayers & praise of those present.  During one particular time of extended worship (after, “Be Lifted Up”), one of the ladies was praying aloud; I can’t remember exactly what she was praying, but it caused me to change the song we were to sing next.

“Here I Am To Worship” was originally further down the list, but the lyric  fitted so well with what she had just prayed.  We spent a while repeating the chorus (venturing once into the bridge); we didn’t sing the verses, but rather carried on playing the chorus progression, alternating between the lyric & improvised worship.

We flowed from that into the anthemic, “I Exalt Thee” before quietly starting, “Lord You Have My Heart”.  Though it started quietly, it most certainly didn’t finish that way!  The song culminated in us repeating the the chorus:

I will praise You Lord

I will sing of love come down

And as You show Your face

We’ll see Your glory here

We could not only have continued, but also “kicked it up a notch” at that point.  Instead, Mark spoke to us about being “storm proof” – a word that was partly inspired by the lady who testified in Stevenage in the morning (who quoted the verses from Habakkuk).

At the end of his preach, we had a time of prayer, asking God to help us, so that when we hit a storm, our main concern would be that people see Jesus.  While we were praying, I played the following song (which we went on to sing to finish):

• The More I Seek You (Zach Neese)

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I was having the Sunday off from Stevenage this week.  I’ve asked Ali to write a recap; when he sends it through, I’ll update the post.  Meanwhile, if you were there, why not post a comment.  I’m keen to hear how it went.

Exeter (pm)

The songs we sang in Exeter this week were:

• God Of Wonders (Marc Byrd, Steve Hindalong)
• For Who You Are (Marty Sampson)
• Dove’s Eyes (Rick Pino)
• Better Is One Day (Matt Redman)
• Facedown (Matt Redman)

When I’m preparing for a time of corporate worship, there will sometimes be one song which stands out.  When that happens, I will usually build the list around it.  This week, that song was “Dove’s Eyes”.

The first two songs both went well; by that I mean people were connecting with God.  During the next song however, something sweet happened.  The lyrics are quite intimate and as we sang through the chorus, (singing of how much we love Him) I began to get a sense of how much He loves us; it was quite overwhelming and I failed spectacularly to communicate it to everyone present; nevertheless, I knew God was wanting us to know & experience afresh a deep sense of His love for us – and I believe others sensed that too.

We spent some time in “free worship” (improvising our own words and melodies) over the chords of Bb & C; using those chords meant that we could drift in and out of the next two songs which both have the same progression in places.  During this time there was also a prophetic word which I thought confirmed what we sensed earlier and also lined up with the teaching which Mark had prepared.

I love it when different people come with different pieces of the puzzle which fit together to make a beautiful picture.

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Wow, what an awesome morning!  Mark stood up to pray at the start of the service; the band began to improvise around the chords of A & D; everyone joined in – praying, worshiping (in English, in tongues), singing – a beautiful, harmonious symphony; and that’s where we stayed for the next 30 minutes or so.

There was an ebb & flow of worship, prayer & prophecy; crescendos that were powerful & passionate followed by times of beautiful, quiet intimacy – all interspersed with words of prophecy and encouragements from scripture (4 or 5 different people sharing what God was saying to them).  We would worship, God would say something to us, we would respond & then worship some more… (& so it continued).

There was no script; we communed with God.  Of course, the set list was “thrown out of the window”; of the six songs originally planned, the only one we sang was:

• Mighty To Save (Ben Fielding, Reuben Morgan) Mike

Lyrically, the song fitted with the prophetic words that were brought and with parts of the teaching from Mark (though it wasn’t planned that way).

The teaching will probably become the first part of a new series called, “Real Life, Real Church”.  Starting with Jesus’ mandate in John 10:10 to bring us “…life… to the full”, we looked at what He meant when He said “life” (as opposed to our definition); then contrasted John 12:23-26, where Jesus warned against holding on to & loving our own (selfish) lives & how that destroys us compared to living His (selfless) life.

Exeter (pm)

We began with some improvised, “free” worship in the key of E which led straight into the first song:

• You Are Good (Israel Houghton)

We ended the song with a “big finish”; the band holding the last chord while everyone cried out, “You Are Good!” – applauding God, declaring His greatness and shouting His praise.  At the end of the crescendo, I started playing the intro to the next song (which we played in the key of A – making for a smooth transition between the 2 songs):

• For Who You Are (Marty Sampson)

It was a high energy start to the service and people were most definitely engaging.

Wile we were singing this song, a line from the verse stood out to me:

Waiting here patiently

Just to hear Your still small voice again

We quietened the music and I felt impressed to say that God wanted to speak with us and that we needed to spend some time listening – which we did.

Sandra shared a picture she saw; it was of a little child, running care-free through a field, holding her father’s hand; describing the sense of excitement the child felt.  We spent some time in that space.  We sang of our desire to run to Him & hold His hand; He spoke to us about wanting to remove the chains & heavy burdens that hindered us.

We sang two more songs:

• King Of Glory (Brad Avery, David Carr, Mac Powell, Mark Lee, Tai Anderson)
• Your Love Is Like (Rick Pino)

It was funny that after spending time singing about us running to God, the first  line of the next song to sing was:

Who is this King of Glory

That pursues me with His love

The last song was a beautifully intimate response, reveling in His love as we sang:

Your love is like the ocean

I’m drowning in Your presence

Getting lost in the gaze of Your eyes

Getting lost in the warmth of Your smile

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This week was “family service” week in Stevenage.  We come together as a whole family to worship – instead of our childrens church holding their own, age-specific service.  What that means practically is usually a shorter time of worship with perhaps a performance oriented song, or dance included and a shortened “preach” – which normally involves tins of chocolates being passed around the congregation at some point (bribery will get you anywhere!).

The set list for Stevenage looked like this:

• Open The Eyes of My Heart (Paul Baloche) Ali
• Be Thou My Vision (Mary E. Byrne & Eleanor Hull) Ali
• Be Lifted Up (Paul Oakley) Ali
• I Run To You (Ali Loaker) Teash

• Take A Stand (Jon Horwood) Jon

I must admit I had a blast this Sunday!  Both our normal drummers were unable to play this week – so I covered.  Interestingly, I had comments from 2 separate people saying how I looked like I was enjoying myself more than I usually do.  Hmm… I hope I don’t look miserable when I’m leading worship (note to self: smile more!).  I think the reason was because drums were my first love (musically) – the first instrument I learned to play.  I don’t have to consciously think about anything when I play drums; I also didn’t have the added percieved pressure of trying to lead any of the songs – wondering where to take the arrangement, or how to engage more of the congregation etc. (2nd note to self: stop trying to lead – relax, worship).

I think I may have relaxed a litle too much though… I dropped a stick 3 times during the service.  It was funny!

Looking from where I was sat, there was a lot of high energy, with plenty of people engaging and looking as though they were enjoying themselves.

We sang “Open The Eyes…” in a U2 “Still Haven’t Found What I’m Looking For” style.  The second song started with me playing a driving rhythm on the toms; the bass & guitar joined in & then the vocal, “Be thou my vision…” over the top.  The next 2 songs are anthemic ballads & were really well received.

The last song is a rap written & performed by our bass player Jon.  His brother Joel guested on bass for us.  It’s a really great song, with a driving electric guitar riff over a funky bass & hip hop drum beat.  To me , it sounds like a mixture of Eminem & Led Zepelin – a passionate, (slightly menacing sounding), rock/funk rap.

Exeter (pm)

At the start of the service in Exeter I prayed expressing my heart to get past the lyric of the songs and to connect with God (and by that I meant not in a  superficial way, but in a real, passionate, heart-felt way).  Well, there were plenty of others who agreed with that, so from then on it was a done deal.  We were most definitely NOT having a time of christian karaoke!

The songs that we sang this week were as follows (all in the key of D):

• It Is You (Peter Furler)
• Open The Eyes Of My Heart (Paul Baloche)
• Turn Your Eyes Upon Jesus (Helen H Lemmel)
• Be The Centre (Michael Frye)
• Lord You Have My Heart (Martin Smith)
• Revelation Song (Jennie Riddle)

I felt as though we did connect with God.  The worship flowed, with spaces between the songs where there were spontaneous prayers, or applause, or extended times of “free” worship.  Even during the songs, there was still that vital connection; we weren’t just singing the lyric.  I think this was because the theme of all the songs can be summed up from a line in one of them:

“Jesus, be the centre”.

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Me on drums (a short mobile phone video clip of Jon’s song, “Take A Stand”)

We played ‘More than words’ which was well received and then went into a bit of free time at the end. Ali declared that there was freedom and joy in the house and people started dancing and enjoying themselves. Whilst the music was still going, Lola gave a word about God inviting us to ‘Come in into the holy place’

Ali continued this theme by encouraging everybody to ‘lift up’ the name of Jesus in worship and praise and we moved into ‘Be lifted up’, this created an intimate atmosphere in which people were quietly talking to God. Ali shattered that by saying ‘We all go about our lives quite happily and then put on our ‘Church’ face which is serious and glum when it is time to meet with the rest of the body, lets not do that, lets make this a place of celebration and joy’. Ali asked everybody to greet somebody else and say ‘I’m glad you came tonight’, which went down so well that Adrian had to call the meeting to order again as it was decided that the people were having far too much fun (joke!).

Adrian then addressed the congregation about a young Ghanaian man who needed money to stay in hospital and live, without the money he would die as he would be forced to leave hospital. The congregation prayed and saw pictures of a baby being wrapped up in blankets by a loving father. Ali prayed and thanked God for the young man and the fact that God knew him before the dawn of time and that he still sees hi as his child even though the man has grown up and that he would take care of him.

We sang ‘My romance’ and ‘Your love is like the rain’ both of which caused a more intimate setting where Ali whispered down the microphone ‘Come back to me, come back to me, when I look at you I see perfection, when I think of you I smile and I am proud, come back to me and stop running, look into my eyes and feel my embrace, you are loved’ this caused a few teary eyes and the congregation were caught in silent wonder followed by a very quiet version of ‘The more I seek you’

I’ll post a review of the Exeter service when I receive it from Ali.  For now, here’s Stevenage’s:

• More Than Words (Mike Ellis) Mike
• Heart’s Cry (Mike Ellis) Mike

• Dance

• Holy Is Our King (Rick Pino) Ali
• Facedown (Matt Redman) Ali
• The More I Seek You (Zach Neese) Teash

I particularly enjoyed this morning from a musical perspective.  We played the whole set with 2 acoustic guitars (along with bass & drums).  We normally use at least 1 electric in the band; it was refreshing to change up the band sound.

There were a number of other factors “meeting the need for variety” this week.  Teash got to lead a song for the first time in a while; there was a dance & we also spent some time praying with a family who were spending their last Sunday with us before heading off to Bible College.

The first 2 songs are ones that we haven’t sung for a while – both are mine & in the key of D.  They worked well together & sounded great with the more acoustic lineup.

That was followed by the dance brought by our very own “Set Apart” street dancers.  It was their last performance in their current format.  This is because 2 of the dancers & the lady who runs the group are part of the family that were leaving for Bible College.  The girls do a great job of choreographing their own routines and are always well received (my eldest daughter is also one of the dancers).

We then prayed for the family that was leaving & various people prayed and brought words of encouragement & prophecy.  It was good to see so many participating.

Ali led the next 2 songs, which transition really well; both were played with a capo on the 5th fret and both have a section where an F, G chord progression is played; making it simple to switch between them.

Teash did well with the last song.  She hasn’t led for a while and was thrown back in without much practice.  Blessed are the flexible…

Mark & Sandra are away this week, so Adrian spoke.  He continued in the same vein as Mark; speaking on “Seeing Through God’s Eyes”.  In particular, looking at 2 Cor. 5:14-17 and focussing on v16 about not evaluating others from a human point of view.  He spoke from his heart – it was good.

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Sunday Set List 19 July 2009 – Exeter

• Lord You Are Good (Israel Houghton)
• For Who You Are (Marty Sampson)
• Indescribable (Chris Tomlin)
• Dove’s Eyes (Rick Pino)
• Your Love Is Like (Rick Pino)
• The More I Seek You (Zach Neese)

All songs were played either in E or A, which I played capo 2 on my accoustic.

Stevenage (am):

Praise & worship “took off” in Stevenage this week.  Right from the start, people freely chose to give themselves, singing passionately from the heart, raising their hands, focussing their attention firmly on God – celebrating His goodness.  This continued through the second song, “For Who You Are”.

When we reached the third song, however, people began to disengage.  Whether or not this was because we’ve not sung the song for a while, I don’t know; I think, perhaps more realistically, it was because I was a bit unsure of the arrangement .  So, I cut the song short, held the last chord (capo 2 C) & began to improvise lyrically over the top of it – singing directly to God.  Then… Wham! It took off again; only this time, more so.  All around the room, more & more people were crying out to God, engrossed in His presence.

This passion & intensity continued for the whole of the rest of the worship.  We sang Rick Pino’s anthemic “Dove’s Eyes”; repeating the chorus:

“I love Your face

I love Your kisses

I love Your embrace

I love Your presence”

We looped the chord progression for quite a while, allowing people to sing their own words.  Throughout the worship time, we left a lot of space for this to happen.  We flowed out of the extended free worship time, finishing with the beautifully intimate, “Your Love Is Like”.

Exeter (pm):

Though the set list was the same, the flow of the service was different to Stevenage (as you may expect – different band members, different congregation, different circumstances etc.)  For me, it didn’t flow as easily.  Don’t get me wrong, I could see people around the room engaging in worship, obviously meeting with God; it’s just that people didn’t want to go where I wanted to lead.  There’s no criticism in that; there is no obligation on anyone to do what they don’t want to.  The only criticism I would offer would be of myself – should I allow that to be a source of frustration.  That would be wrong; it would mean that I only see people as being there to somehow validate “my ministry” – ugh!

Herein lies my dilemma.  My desire and aim during a worship service is to encounter God & provide a platform that facilitates as many as possible to encounter Him & gives Him the space to move freely.  Within the process, I may feel that we need to sing a certain song or lyric, or I may speak an encouragement or verse of scripture (as can anyone).  With no-one obliged to follow any instruction or encouragement, I can either find myself “out-there” on my own, or I can hold back & choose not bring what I believe God has given.  Neither are desirable.

Bizarrely, the highlight in Exeter this week was the Chris Tomlin song, “Indescribable” (the very one that didn’t do so well in Stevenage).  Oh well!  We only managed to get as far as “Dove’s Eyes” before it was time for Mark to bring part 2 of his teaching on “Discovering the Real You”.

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Dilemma: Do I post a set list for each congregation separately, or together?  Hmm… Let’s try together:

Stevenage:

It has become the norm for Ali to choose the set list for the Stevenage congregation.  Here are the songs that we got to sing from the list he chose this week:

• Come Love of God (Ali Loaker) Ali
• Your Grace is Enough (Chris Tomlin) Mike
• Holy is the Lord (Chris Tomlin) Ali
• Passion (Mike Ellis) Mike

There is a different dynamic for me when worshipping with the Stevenage congregation.  This is because we have a larger, more established band with multiple “worship leaders” and I may only end up leading 1 or 2 songs in a set.  When I am not leading, I may be playing second guitar, adding riffs; I may be strumming an accoustic whilst adding backing vocals.  In the set above, for example, during the first song (which Ali led) I played second guitar on my electric, playing a riff high up the neck.  In the second song, I led it whilst playing my accoustic.

The challenge for me is to continue to remain connected & focused; hearing God, connecing at a heart level, pouring out my heart in worship, and play the right notes – all at the same time, whether or not I am leading.  The temptation is to back-off when I am not leading.

Exeter:

As it is mostly me who travels to Exeter to “lead worship”, I usually choose the set list for Exeter.  The songs we got to sing this week were:

• For Who You Are (Marty Sampson)
• Holy is The Lord (Chris Tomlin)
• Dove’s Eyes (Rick Pino)
• My Romance (RickPino)

All 4 songs were played in the key of A (I actually played capo 2 G – deliberately, to give a more open sound on the accoustic & make it easier to add in bass note runs between the chords).  As often as possible, I will try to play songs either in the same key (even if it means changing the key they were originally written in), or I will play them in keys that flow together.  I find this helps not just by having smoother transitions between songs, but it provides the space in between the songs for us to get into more free, spontaneous worship – these are my favourite times!

For me, the songs themselves are often only a journey to a place where we all connect vitally with God & each other; giving Him the space to lead & direct as He wills and through whom He chooses.  In fact, the reason why (in both congregations) we didn’t get to sing all the songs from the set lists is because of spending as much time as possible in these spaces.  I will often only introduce the next planned song in the list as a tool to help people engage with God when I sense that they are starting to disconnect.

As an aside, the term “set list” is one that is becoming more uncomfortable for me.  This is because it suggests performance; and our heart is most certainly not to perform or entertain, but rather to play our part in the divine dance that is this small expression of worship; and to facilitate the body moving together with Him.

For the sake of ease & continuity, I will probably carry on using the term “set list” (at least for now).  Perhaps in the future, I may change the name of this post to the “Redemption weekly round up”- or something similar… we’ll see – watch this space!

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